Never again

She's moved on, shes not going back ever again,
at least not with you.
She thought about it one too many times,
she thought she needed you.
She spent too long thinking she couldn't do without you.

But never again is she walking that path.

For now she knows you were never worth it.

Now she sees further than you ever could,

Now she's knows better than you,

Now she feels so much better than you.

You ran away like a coward and made her feel like the reason.

Oh but she has finally realized, it was all you!

You were scared, scared of your own future

That it chased you away from her.

You didn't care that she was welcoming you into hers.

You didn't think for once what she could have been to you.

Not once did you consider the joys she could have brought to you.

How afraid we're you? Did she scare you away? 

Or did you do it yourself?
Did you feel unworthy?

If such is true then good riddance!

For she deserves better than a coward.

She deserves better than a boy.

Grow up, your woman has left you behind. 

Together with Nature

Together, we can do so much, together we can be so much, together we are so much

This thought is something that constantly inspires me to get off my phone and get out of my house. It takes me away from my desktop and takes me to some place where I can be more than a couch potato, do more than type and speak more than through a microphone. If only we all considered ‘being together’ to be more than just on a Whatsapp or a Facebook group.

But why? Why should I, or you for that matter, leave all our gadgets behind and take a walk or go meet some friends or have a cup of coffee in a new restaurant instead of carrying it with you in a cardboard cup? Why should you sit down and talk when you can walk and talk? Why should you turn your music off and listen to people or your environment?

Because you’re missing out on the greater things in life. We’ve all grown so fond of the idea of ‘quick and easy’ that we have forgotten slow and calm or beauty and appreciation or acknowledgement. We have forgotten about sunrises and sunsets, walks in parks, swing sets and beaches. One may argue that it’s difficult to slow down when the rest of the world moves at lightning speed, and how can you make time for leisure when work and responsibilities are in the way. Yet, these are the same people who spend a huge amount of their spare time on social networks and aimless internet browsing.

It is really sad that as time passes people have forgotten the need for togetherness. We tend to take so much joy from being able to connect with each other remotely through our smart phones and latest gadgets that we have become so oblivious to the actual joys of meeting in person or sharing a cup of coffee together.

There is joy in catching up with old friends; there is joy in watching Mother Nature take its course. Trust me, you deserve some time out, no one will die if you take 15 minutes off to go watch the sun set over the horizon. It will be the best 15 minutes you’ve had in a long time.

I’ve listed a couple of things you could try out to experience the joy of togetherness or simply the joy of nature:
1. Go out for dinner with your friends or family and make a deal. All phones down, the 1st person to pick theirs up pays the bill.  (Take just one picture before or after the meal if it worries you so much)
2. Make time for a short walk every evening in your compound, ask a neighbour or a friend to accompany you even if it it just for 30 minutes.
3. Go to a café and sit in for your coffee/meal.  Stop using cardboard cups so often, sit down, and enjoy the coffee, the ambience and a good book if you can make the time. Cardboard cups have contributed to our fast lifestyles.
4. Call up some old friends and decide to meet at some common place. Just spend the evening together. No need to go to any fancy places, no need to do anything together, just meet up and hang out A movie at a group member’s place doesn’t hurt either or a board game, ludo, snakes and ladders, monopoly, twister, go crazy, go old school . (This one is my personal favourite)

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Emotions v/s Emoticons

Very few will actually 'C' the difference!

On September 19th 2015, the emoticon ':-)' turned 33 years old along with its mates ':-(' and ';-)'.  The emoticons have come along way from their original composition of simple punctuation marks to today's one click emojis.
Lets have a look at how the emoticons have made their way into our lives and also how they have substituted a major aspect of conversations: emotions.

On the 19th of September, 1982, Scott E Fahlman, a research professor at the Language Technologies Institute and Computer Science Department at Carnegie Mellon,composed the smiley for the first time on an online science bulletin board stating that it were to be used to imply that the sentence was a joke or to be taken lightly. He also introduced the sad face smiley.

According to Fahlman, the problem was that if someone made a sarcastic remark, a few readers would fail to get the joke, and each of them would post a lengthy diatribe in response. That would stir up more people with more responses, and soon the original thread of the discussion was buried.  In at least one case, a humorous remark was interpreted by someone as a serious safety warning.

And this problem has been around ever since conversations have gone online and probably even since written letters.


But emoticons have managed to add emotion to words where they weren't sufficient enough.

All said and done, rather all punctuated and smiled at, there is great irony in the use of the emoticon. Today people have substituted words completely with the rise of emoticons. We frame conversations sometimes with only symbols and emojis and often are understood by our peers with such ease. We can combine two or more emojis to say a sentence that otherwise cost us 5-6 words. Emojis have taken us by the hand and given us more to say with less effort.





How has this helped us though? What impact has the emoticon or the recent emojis left on the people of today. One cannot deny the fact that it has harmed communication to a certain extent. Try having a conversation with a friend you chat with on a daily basis but this time using only word
s and not emoticons and you will definitely be asked if you're alright today. Your friend will probably not be able to comprehend your emotion while saying what you said or the style in which you said it or what you meant when you said it.

This is because emoticons today have taken the place of intonation, stress, punctuation, pauses, reactions, and all the other devices that usually added flavor to the written language. The emoticons have help you express more than words can say and probably taught you to say without words.

This has its pros and cons. We can be misunderstood so often just because every persons understanding of every emoji is different. Our use of emojis in different circumstances are different. I don't even have to get started on how every emoticon could translate differently across cultures around the world.

Let us not forget to mention that the recent upgrade in emojis offer the same face in different skin colours. What do you have to say about that?

In conclusion, the emoticon may have contributed in a huge way to speedy conversations and given us expression where there was no other way to express, but lets not forget the beauty of words and the importance of them spelled correctly and completely. Emojis may speak louder than words but emojis can't say exactly what you feel the way words can.

Days of Courage

Our days of courage come by now and again.
They are the days we feel like the universe is on our side,
It's when nothing can come in the way and nothing can stop us.
Our days of courage show us what we don't generally see;
What we can do, what we can be.
They build us up from our otherwise dull days.

Our days of courage make us say the things we always wanted to.
They give us words when there otherwise existed none.
They cause us to repair broken bridges, tie up loose knots.
Our days of courage allow us to admit our love.
They give us strength to speak up and to feel bigger than we usually do.
They help us undo mistakes and sometimes redo them.

But our days of courage are our best ever
Because they bring us to our weakest and make us our strongest.
They tear us to pieces and then fix us up again.
Our days of courage find us our missing pieces and make us whole again.
Our days of courage rid us of our insecurities and bring back our dreams.

My days of courage are rare, for a frightened heart has much to conquer.
But when they come, they come like thieves in the night.
Causing me cold toes and a moment of shivers.
Until I make that brave move that changes everything.

Everything that once was, suddenly can never be

Because these courageous days break and make me.